If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat;
And if he is thirsty, give him water to drink;
For you will heap burning coals on his head,
And the LORD will reward you.
Proverbs 25:21-22
Sometimes in Scripture, we run across something that’s so at odds with the culture in which we’re immersed, it almost gives us whiplash to consider its truth. The way of the world is so often diametrically opposed to the perspective of our Creator, we have to give some significant time to step back and think about what He’s said.
Today’s verses, which speak to the way we treat our enemies—those we like least—comprise such a passage. Solomon, the sage of Israel, wrote that those who followed the God of Israel were not only never to seek revenge on those who hurt them, but more so, to do them active good! That’s a lot to swallow, isn’t it? We might try to imagine ourselves off the hook if the Apostle Paul hadn’t picked up Solomon’s words and applied them directly to the church (Romans 12:20).
It’s easy to do good for those who do us good, but it gets difficult when it’s someone who has done us harm.
Some Bible students have suggested that these verses speak of the internal effect we cause when we show kindness to an enemy. That is, when we do good to someone who hurts us, it brings conviction and shame in their hearts. It is believed that the verse refers to when, in the ancient world, a person’s fire went out in their home. The person with no fire would have to go to a neighbor’s house with a pan, get coals from the neighbor’s fire, and carry them home on his or her head. Although the coals caused discomfort, they were an evidence of the neighbor’s generosity. So, showing this sort of generosity would cause an emotional fire in the likeness of the physical heat of the coals.
That’s an interesting thought, but I don’t think it’s what’s in view here.
It’s probably best to understand that God will visit those who do us harm with retribution as a result of our righteous response to their mistreatment of us. I say that because in these verses we see the language of reward and retribution. The consequence of our obeying this proverb’s instruction is, “the Lord will reward you.” For a near-context cross-reference, we might consider 24:17-18: “Do not rejoice when your enemy falls, and do not let your heart be glad when he stumbles; or the LORD will see it and be displeased, and turn His anger away from him.” Throughout Scripture, we see the principle that God deals justly with injustice (Deuteronomy 32:35; Romans 12:19), and today’s verses are no exception.
The mystery here is that we can either seek to get our own revenge by treating our enemies as we believe they deserve, or let God mete out His justice as a result of our doing them good.
One caveat: We may have to wait a long time for this judgment to fall upon them. Paul underscored this truth with the believers at Thessalonica , as he instructed them about those who were persecuting them. In 2 Thessalonians 1:6-8, we read, “For after all it is only just for God to repay with affliction those who afflict you, and to give relief to you who are afflicted and to us as well when the Lord Jesus will be revealed from heaven with His mighty angels in flaming fire, dealing out retribution to those who do not know God and to those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus.” God’s judgment may be slow in coming from our limited perspective, but it is certain.
While reading the journal of a gentleman who reflected on the visit of his friend, I was touched by how closely this friend’s discovery betrays the hearts of many Christians. “[What he] mentioned was that, several years ago, in dealing with the estate of an elderly relative, they had come across a small book which was entitled, ‘Things I Will Never Forgive.’ It was filled with carefully hand-written lists of fairly trivial affronts from others, which apparently so occupied the mind of this person that she felt it important that none of them ever be forgotten.”
This was a woman who would not entrust judgment to God. She wanted to execute the judgment herself in the form of grudges and bitterness. She could not bring herself to give food and drink to those who hurt her. In so doing, she traded places with God in order execute the justice she felt these folks deserved. That was a bad trade.
Don’t take your own revenge. Entrust yourself to the God of justice by doing good to those who hurt you.

